Attachment Styles Explained

Not by naming a category and stopping there — she works with the scenario underneath: the role, the inherited belief, the family program a person keeps living out. The label describes the pattern; her work addresses the pattern itself, through the body and repeated practice.

A scenario is a way of relating that was learned early, repeated across partners, and stored in the body as much as in memory. The partner changes; the scenario stays the same until it is consciously examined and worked with.

Maya explains it directly: partners change, but the repetition remains — the same scenarios are lived out again and again. The work is not to try harder at choosing, but to see which scenario is switched on and to transform it at its source.

A large one — in Maya's teaching a scenario follows a bodily feeling: tension, withdrawal, collapse, arising before any conscious thought about the relationship. Working with the body directly is part of how the pattern actually becomes visible and changeable, not just an idea to analyze.

Something to work with, not a verdict. In Maya's view a pattern of relating is lived experience — and lived experience is exactly the kind of thing that can be recognized, felt in the body, and transformed through practice.

Yes — Maya has watched this directly in her own practice: two people can build a healthy bond once both begin working with the scenario underneath, rather than waiting for the other person to complete what feels missing in themselves.

No. The patterns show up in friendships, at work, with parents and children. Maya observes the same scenarios repeating across all of life — which is why her work addresses the scenario itself, wherever it shows up.

A large one. Maya says the patterns are either family stories or scenarios carried in the soul — and that is exactly why they can be examined: once recognized as inherited, they lose their power to run the show unnoticed.

Start by observing, without judgment: which scenario keeps returning, which belief runs it, which role you keep stepping into. Then work with the pattern through practice — body, attention, and repeated new responses — until the new way becomes the familiar one.

Maya sees being in closeness as a challenge that asks for a deep recognition and living of one's own path first. A person who knows their own way can meet another without needing them to fill a deficit.

Recognition first — feeling where the scenario lives in the body as it arises, rather than only discussing it. Then a different response is practiced deliberately, through movement, breath, and attention, until that new response becomes the familiar one instead of the old scenario.

Naming a pattern and completing it are two different things, in Maya's experience. Understanding can describe the scenario; only repeated practice — in the body, in attention, in how you actually respond — changes what a person is drawn to and what they accept.

The research line most people know starts with John Bowlby's attachment theory and Mary Ainsworth's infant studies, then Hazan and Shaver's 1987 study extending it to adult romantic love — the origin of the familiar secure, anxious, and avoidant categories, later joined by a fourth, disorganized. It confirms early bonds shape adult relationship patterns, and that the pattern can shift across a lifespan — which lines up with what Maya has observed directly across 30 years of practice. The research names the pattern; her work addresses it.

Through work with scenarios, beliefs, and inherited programs — in the Basics of Life program, Mandala Dance, and her meditation and attention practices. The principle: a pattern formed through repeated experience is transformed through repeated practice.

The Basics of Life program is Maya's foundational course — five days of online practice working with life scenarios, relationships with parents, self-worth, the body, and awareness. It is the structured beginning of changing the pattern.